BECOME AN EXPERT
I’m on a mission to end isolation! Isolation caused by the devastation of relationship heartbreak. We all know that grief has stages but there's one unique difference when it comes to abandonment grief that can cause it to linger on–its potential for injury to self. It's been said that there's no deeper wound than the wound inflicted by self-doubt.
Abandonment is the crux of the human condition-a crisis of disconnection and a feeling of being unsafe. As an adult, we can be left. We can be betrayed. We can be rejected and we can even be discarded. We can feel abandoned but in truth, we cannot be abandoned. Only a child can be abandoned but long after childhood ends, our survival narratives can live on. Left unresolved, the primal wound of abandonment festers below the surface, silently eroding our self-esteem, infecting our relationships and triggering our most self-defeating patterns.
The only antidote to abandonment is connection, and the chain of connection is clear: If we're isolated, we can't communicate; if we can't communicate, we can't connect (co-regulate); if we can't connect (co-regulate), then we can’t feel safe.
Healing from the underlying wound of abandonment empowers us to reach for love and connectedness with self-reliance and emotional wisdom. Stop leaving yourself behind.
“Our perceptions of our stories might shape our reality but our patterns reveal the truth.”
The real power of story lies in its ability to bypass our logical brains and go directly to our conditioned or primal hearts causing us to behave or respond to situations as though we’re on autopilot, which is why we must consciously look at the patterns in our lives to move us from what we thought we believed, to discover what is truth. Storied moments are our clues! (Signature program: “Relationship Reset”)
If you’ve ever asked yourself, "Who am I?" or "Why do I always seem to struggle so much with my relationships?" then it’s time to awaken your inner Goddess and bring the full power of her story to the surface!
Most of us are still unconscious “women-in-between,” acted on by patterns from within and cultural stereotypes from without. Once we become aware of the forces that influence us – OUR STORIES – we gain the power that knowledge provides. We learn how to become better protagonists or "experts" in our own lives.
WHO WE ARE
If we want clarity about who we are, we need to consciously look to who we've been. We need to explore the moments in our lives to uncover our stories and our patterns.
Who are you?
What are your values?
What are your convictions?
WHERE WE'RE GOING
Joseph Campbell encouraged us to follow our bliss.
By consciously outlining our priorities and goals, and envisioning the person that would be able to achieve them, we're positioning ourselves to embrace change, create momentum and pursue our potential!
Whether we take small steps or big strides, whatever our style, it's the positive momentum we're focused on creating that builds confidence.
WHERE WE'VE BEEN
Every person, all events in our lives are here because we’ve drawn them here. What we choose to do with that is up to us. When we recognize that empowerment comes via responsibility– owning our choices–healing and forgiveness becomes a question of purposeful direction...
...a combination of mindset and motion–taking responsibility and taking action.
It's recogizing ourselves in others.
BRIDGE THE DISTANCE
Courage means choosing to live in congruence with who we believe we are (clarity), and where we believe we're going (confidence). It also means being able to point a gentle mirror on where we believe we've actually been (compassion).
Once we find the meaning of our suffering, we can generate the internal energy and emotional resources necessary to transcend to a new level of safety, awareness, connection and understanding.
We'll get to the heart of your unique relationship triggers, emotional challenges and attachment style. We'll identify ongoing self-defeating patterns and perspectives that are preventing you from achieving your definition of abundance and personal success.
You'll learn how to embody your core values and enforce personal boundaries to build a foundation for healthy loving and conscious living. You'll learn to alter your internal narratives from "who I am" to "how I am" - shame to acceptance - negative to positive, to heal from the underlying wound of abandonment. You'll crush walls and leap plateaus with increased emotional literacy and tried and true emotional toolsets.
By living a life of integrity and congruence, we live and lead our lives by example, encouraging others to reach out and do the same. When we heal ourselves, we heal the world around us.
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...and it’s wonderful to meet you! I’m from Ottawa, Ontario, Canada.
Over the last several years, I’ve been on this incredible life journey, discovering that...
NOTHING IN LIFE IS LINEAR! And no (wo)man is an island!
How did I get here? A 2X university graduate once focused on business and the next financial opportunity, to retraining as a Life Coach and NLP Master Practitioner so that I could help others unstick their stuck, and become experts in their own lives?
A relationship gone wrong! I discovered aspects of myself so contrary to who I believed I was, as well as, the world I believed I lived in, that it shattered something deep within me. I couldn’t just respond or transition to the next phase of my life like I was so often able to do. I couldn’t detach and bounce back.
I GOT STUCK!
Getting stuck forced me to stop and reflect, learn in a much deeper way than I’d ever done before. It opened my eyes to a world of infinite potential, possibility and personal growth. I didn’t want a repeat of the chaos that my life had become, despite the safety that it promised to provide. I wanted answers. I needed answers…even if that meant they weren’t the ones I initially set out to find. (see my book, Just Jaylyn)
PEOPLE. PASSION. PERSEVERANCE.
My dad was a successful entrepreneur and my mom was service-oriented, working in the realm of academia so my love for learning and service came honestly and my desire to succeed did too. They divorced early-on in my life, and whether it’s as a result or not, I grew up living a fairly transient lifestyle. Between the ages of 5 and 18, kindergarten and high school graduation, I moved ten times and attended nine different schools. What many would describe as an unstable environment, I chose to define as dynamic. I chose to capitalize on its opportunities rather than dwell on its omissions. I chose to thrive.
That reality set the stage for an intense appreciation of our unique stories (PEOPLE); discovery of a natural affinity to listen and feel unspoken patterns that weren’t visibly there for all to see (PASSION); and solidifying a belief in the importance of “doing the work”, in seeking solutions not just band-aids. (PERSEVERANCE) But it also set the stage for my downfall...or rather... break-through. I just didn’t know it back then.
Today, I’m many things: an author, a writer, a certified life coach, a project management professional (we're all projects, aren't we?), a Reiki II and Neuro-Linguistic Programming Master Practitioner but above all, I’M AN EXPERT IN MY OWN LIFE! Compelled to use my strengths and positivity to empower others with the tools they need to reclaim their brilliance and resilience, the same way I did, through the power of story and motion.
Creating roadmaps that inspire personal life strategies to “unstick your stuck” is such a great honour. When I see people embracing change, creating momentum and pursuing their potential – healing themselves forward – I can’t help but feel that I’ve somehow been healed, too.
Over the past 15 years, I have helped hundreds of people from all over the world take back their power, embrace change, create momentum and pursue their potential so you are absolutely in the right place!
If heartache is universal, healing should be too.